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So a friend tries to hook me up....

87IROCZOWNER69

87IROCZOWNER69

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So pretty much my buddies girlfriend tried to hook me up with one of her friends starting about two weeks ago. She had apparently sent pictures of me to this friend and told me that she was "interested" in seeing me and meeting me and what not. I only went with it because she is supposedly one of her few friends that isn't a "hoe". So I'm told to add her on facebook and contact her and set something up.... So I pretty much message her my phone number and whatnot. I knew things were off to a bad start when I didnt get a response til two days later saying something along the lines of "I didnt see you're message I'll text ya tomorrow!". So I wait two days until I message her back pretty much asking her what gives? So then she tells me that she has been busy and has a terrible memory, so what she is telling me is that she doesnt have fifty extra seconds in her BUSY day to even text me and say hey or hows it going or the letter n or anything? So I shrug it off and tell her whatever I have a hard time remembering **** too. So fast forward to this last Friday and I ask her what's going on with her. I never get a response however I do get a little notification saying that she had looked at my message.....

So my response to all this is to ask my buddies girlfriend whats going on with this girl? She says she is really busy all the time. So then I am told that she really isnt and that she has been hanging out with her for half of the days out of the last two weeks. And while all that had been going on my buddies girlfriend will send me pictures that this girl has instagrammed her that are directed towards me saying Hi and other stuff.

Anyway this stuff has me all sorts of pissed off because I'm pretty sure my buddies girlfriend is just ****ing around with my head and trying to drive me away.

I really don't need this kind of crap in my life right now. For the last few months I have been working out and **** to get in shape so that I can get a girlfriend and to also give me something to do to pull me out of my depression (atleast everyone who is close to me thinks I am depressed). I have been doing great because I lost about fifty pounds and have been building up all this muscle and have dropped down to a 34 waist (and still dropping). I guess what I'm saying is that I don't need all this extra empty promises and crap trying to bring me down when I am trying to pick myself up. Eh, ya know I have noticed some pretty nice looking ladies at the gym checking me out so maybe I'll just start talking to them... and on the same note delete this chick off my friends list.

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87IROCZOWNER69 said:
For the last few months I have been working out and **** to get in shape so that I can get a girlfriend and to also give me something to do to pull me out of my depression (atleast everyone who is close to me thinks I am depressed). I guess what I'm saying is that I don't need all this extra empty promises and crap trying to bring me down when I am trying to pick myself up.
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#1, wrong reason to be working out. Good looks should be a side benefit, not one of your major reasons for working out. Unless you're an athlete who's conditioning for his/her sport, the fact that you are taking control of your health, which will make life situations a lot easier to deal with mentally as well as physically, should be the sole purpose of why you're at the gym. Everything else is just a bonus that comes along for the ride.

#2, you are never going to get over depression or find happiness if you are dependent on having someone in your life to make that happen. For starters, love is not a pair of jeans, or new car. You can't shop for it. Secondly, the vast majority of people on this planet are not worth knowing, much less getting close to, so you will lead a life of disappointment if you're intent on "finding someone". Stop wanting to be with someone, focus on yourself through goals and ambitions instead (improving your health, focusing on improving your financial situation through schooling, better job, saving, etc, exploring life, spending more time with family/close friends, etc), and you will find much more peace and fulfillment. Everything else is a distraction from you becoming you/developing yourself. IF someone special comes out of no where and enthralls you, again, consider it a bonus, not a necessity.
 
RareGMFan said:
#1, wrong reason to be working out. Good looks should be a side benefit, not one of your major reasons for working out. Unless you're an athlete who's conditioning for his/her sport, the fact that you are taking control of your health, which will make life situations a lot easier to deal with mentally as well as physically, should be the sole purpose of why you're at the gym. Everything else is just a bonus that comes along for the ride.

#2, you are never going to get over depression or find happiness if you are dependent on having someone in your life to make that happen. For starters, love is not a pair of jeans, or new car. You can't shop for it. Secondly, the vast majority of people on this planet are not worth knowing, much less getting close to, so you will lead a life of disappointment if you're intent on "finding someone". Stop wanting to be with someone, focus on yourself through goals and ambitions instead (improving your health, focusing on improving your financial situation through schooling, better job, saving, etc, exploring life, spending more time with family/close friends, etc), and you will find much more peace and fulfillment. Everything else is a distraction from you becoming you/developing yourself. IF someone special comes out of no where and enthralls you, again, consider it a bonus, not a necessity.
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#1, The whole working out thing just came up out of shear boredom one day. My buddy asked if I wanted to start working out with him and it kind of went from being recreational to turning into a hobby. So I guess yeah working out started as trying to get looking good but then as of recent it's just been a fun way to pass the time and the results I have been getting just make it that much sweeter.

#2, Yep I get it. Right now I'm searching for a job so that I can fund schooling for this coming fall so that I can go on and make something of myself. But since having been unemployed I have had waaaay too much free time, which is where the whole working out thing came from. Plus on top of that when I'm not working out with my buddy I am hanging out with him working on cars or driving around and whatnot, and the whole time we are doing that he will either be talking to his girlfriend or she will just show up and while she is there she will be pressuring me to get one by always saying "Why dont you have a girlfriend yet" and "You're too nice of a guy not to have one" and so on and so forth. Then I get all this pressure at home from my mom saying how I need to find a girlfriend and blah blah blah, so much so that it got to the point where I actually believed her (there was a time where I was fine and dandy just being by myself and staying away from all the hoes in todays society).

So there are just alot of outside factors that keep pounding me down to the point of me trying to do whatever I can to get them all to shut up.
 


RareGMFan said:
#1, wrong reason to be working out. Good looks should be a side benefit, not one of your major reasons for working out. Unless you're an athlete who's conditioning for his/her sport, the fact that you are taking control of your health, which will make life situations a lot easier to deal with mentally as well as physically, should be the sole purpose of why you're at the gym. Everything else is just a bonus that comes along for the ride.

#2, you are never going to get over depression or find happiness if you are dependent on having someone in your life to make that happen. For starters, love is not a pair of jeans, or new car. You can't shop for it. Secondly, the vast majority of people on this planet are not worth knowing, much less getting close to, so you will lead a life of disappointment if you're intent on "finding someone". Stop wanting to be with someone, focus on yourself through goals and ambitions instead (improving your health, focusing on improving your financial situation through schooling, better job, saving, etc, exploring life, spending more time with family/close friends, etc), and you will find much more peace and fulfillment. Everything else is a distraction from you becoming you/developing yourself. IF someone special comes out of no where and enthralls you, again, consider it a bonus, not a necessity.
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#1. why does it matter WHY he goes to the gym? if he wants to go to the gym to look good, then why the eff NOT? thats what i do. you look great, you feel great, when you feel great you have confidence and it just steamrolls into all good things. so honestly, the reason to be going to the gym is pretty irrelevant.

#2. i dont see anywhere in his first post saying that he was dependant on finding a woman to make him happy. however, there is only so much happiness you can give to yourself.
now on this point you can call me naive its ok. i think having the attitude that most people arent worth knowing is exactly whats wrong with the world. if people would just take the time to listen to others we would realize that none of us really are that different. we are all striving for the same things. and yet instead of working together we have this pointless hatred and wannabe superiority complex to fellow men, that i think stems from self loathing and hatred. sometimes you have to focus on finding someone, because you focus on your ambitions and goals too much you forget about whats ACTUALLY happening right now. you forget about life and then you wind up being 40 and alone, looking for purpose.

OP go talk to those girls at the gym. you aint got nothin to lose. go there, say hi im w/e w/e, you look like a really interesting person i wanna get to know you, whats your number ill text you. boom, simple and then you have a date.
 
RareGMFan said:
#1, wrong reason to be working out. Good looks should be a side benefit, not one of your major reasons for working out. Unless you're an athlete who's conditioning for his/her sport, the fact that you are taking control of your health, which will make life situations a lot easier to deal with mentally as well as physically, should be the sole purpose of why you're at the gym. Everything else is just a bonus that comes along for the ride.

#2, you are never going to get over depression or find happiness if you are dependent on having someone in your life to make that happen. For starters, love is not a pair of jeans, or new car. You can't shop for it. Secondly, the vast majority of people on this planet are not worth knowing, much less getting close to, so you will lead a life of disappointment if you're intent on "finding someone". Stop wanting to be with someone, focus on yourself through goals and ambitions instead (improving your health, focusing on improving your financial situation through schooling, better job, saving, etc, exploring life, spending more time with family/close friends, etc), and you will find much more peace and fulfillment. Everything else is a distraction from you becoming you/developing yourself. IF someone special comes out of no where and enthralls you, again, consider it a bonus, not a necessity.
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You make lots of sense and i agree that you should first focus on your self before looking for someone else. Sometimes you dont need to look, they come to you. Thats how you know they can be the one.

To the OP i made a thread about how to talk to this girl and get her number, i was able to later on get the confidence and ask her and get it too. but i find out she does not reply back to my text just like how this girl did not for you. She says she was busy, MY ASS you were busy, i have an Iphone and i can reply back in secs. Its so easy to text on my phone that its sometimes faster than talking on it. I dont get how she cant reply back if she has a Android which is just as easy to text. Either way if they cant even do something simple as that and forget them, just remember you are a great person and be your self.

If you want to work out then go ahead, you can do all those things to make your self look good but its just a plus like this other guy said. You dont need a Girl to give you happiness but they can help you get it though. but you dont look around for them you wait till one finds you, chances are the one that finds you may just be the person you are looking for. Good luck with it bro and just forget that *****, and move on and just be a good person that you are and reach your goals in life.
 


As soon as you were talking about her taking her time to respond, I knew it was bad news.

Get yourself sorted out first, if you take care of yourself, present yourself well, have a stable job, etc. the rest will come. You can't build a house without a foundation. Well, you could, but it'd be a ****ty house.
 
Thanks for more advice guys.

So as I'm reading your guys stuff that you have been posting she out of the blue decides to message me. Telling me about how she is grounded for the next nine days until her Cali trip because she came home the other night drunk and such. So I make small talk for a bit and then I ask her where she has been the last nine days. Surprise surprise she logs off of facebook and doesn't give me a response.

So.....yep I'm over her and ready to hit the gym again. lol
 
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