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How to talk to this cute girl in my college class?

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Just when you see her next say something. Even right before class starts lean over and tell her you want to talk after class. Maybe she was in a rush for something today, you never know.
 


Ya it right, but all this stupid negativity just starts to run across my thoughts. My friend mention to be a long time ago something that I should really be thinking about. He told me to think why would a girl not want me. He told me and lots of people back in high school told me countless times that I was so so nice. I never have or had an intention for being mean Nor did I ever thought people think I'm nice. My friend told me I'm a really good listener. I help people a lt in class on stuff weather it's school related or personal. He told me that I don't quit and I always am able to do things that he couldn't. He told me I was smart and that I as fun to talk to and hang out with. Why would a girl not want that he say. Now when I think about it I may not be very attractive or a model like my friend said. But I gt a great prrsonalitly. He made great sense when he said " you think girls want a very hot guy that they can only look at or a guy who is close to that and can help them , be nice to them, make them laugh, care for them and other stuff." He said what u guys say now and hell I'm going to do it next time. But this time I need something to motivate me. I need to be able to be confident and well I need help not choking at the last min
 
youre on the right track with yourself man, i can tell. just put those thoughts into action, remember any action is better than no action!
 
SF9777 said:
It just seems like ill look weird asking her to study just like that.
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Hey, you seem like a smart person and I'm just not getting this whole (*insert something to do with class*) part. Think we could get together sometime after class and me pick your brain?

If she gives you a "go away creeper" look, just let it go. You have no chance.

If she smiles and agrees, relax, take a breath, smile and wait til after class to setup a time frame. You won, relax.

If she smiles but reluctantly says, "I'm not so good at this either", take a pause, look away, look back and say "Well maybe we could get together anyways and go over it together?" then smile.

If she pushes away after this... don't go for strike 3. Let it go.

If she agrees, see first agreement.
 
Well with me, I just act casually like I'm just her friend, like talking with her about everyday stuff first before even getting to things you want, like a phone number. I don't think about what's going to happen, just go with the flow and it always works out to where I'll be more comfortable talking to her after a little while.

Get in the mindset that she's actually more nervous than you are. This should help your confidence.

Relax. Clear your mind and take a few deep breaths before talking to her. Ever try yoga? It really works. It could probably relieve your mindset of being nervous before talking to her.
 
Just ask her bro. Take it from me years of experience. You don't wanna settle for what if's. I was nervous and waited to long and the girl got away. Years later she asked me why I never asked her out? I should have. As I got older I got more confident I realized not many girls will ask a guy out. You gotta ask them. I'm married now. Love my wife and wouldn't trade it for anything. But it's always been there in my head what if.... Just ask her, quit thinking about what if she says no and think about what if she says yes.
 


So I just go for it. I'm thinking that when I see her next time and hope befor class and going to ask about this assignment we or today to do that's due on the next meet. It's to write about what song would u want played at he funeral and why. Did I mention this class is depressing. Anyway I'm thinking about that and the. Bringing up the mid term and asking if she like to study together. U think I should just ask or ask each others name before that? Or after? And just see from there how it goes. Or should I ask about studying after class? Either way I got to have this momentum going up to then and just hope I don't wuss out this time
 
Got it. Just going to not think about it. When it happens it happens. If she says no it's not the end of the world. Whatever she's says I just got to keep in mind that in a great n nice person. I just got to keep this in mind. I got to force it into my mind
 
If she says no to studying, leave the offer on the table- "Ok that's fine, I'm here if you ever need help with [class material]"
 


when you make plans.. thats when you **** up cause your so concentration on trying to follow the plan and then you forget and then youre done. be free to anything just don't worry about it. be yourself and just do it!

(i have a hitch that she is on this forum... hence the quick leave and late arrival.... ;) JK JK... you're cool bro.. just don't think into everything so much... i used to do that all the time and it gets you in trouble..)
 
Haha ya I got, I'll ask n see. Anything is possible, I just need to get energy n be positive that day. In high school I noticed that this is what got me to not talk to a girl I liked n ended on the what if. Not this time I want to learn from my mistakes. I just need to be brave n ask already. I'll try my best no ill do my best n see how it goes. I just need to be able to kept this confidence when I need it that day.

I just feel kinda like I don't know nervous I guess cause of how she left in a hurry n well I don't know if she does not like me at all. But I'll find out I guess, n just take whatever answer I get.
 
Less planning! More confidence! No reason to be nervous worst that will happen is she says no and you move on...you know how many girls go to your school? You have a chance with everyone just have to start a conversation! There was alot of girls from highschool and college that a later found where interested I was just to scared to attempt even a convo...maybe you need to practice! Try talking to ever hot girl you see!
 


uhm im lost, you are a male correct? Your natural instinct is to HUMP. we will do what it takes and your messing up the first step. Be natural, keep at it.
 
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