#1. why does it matter WHY he goes to the gym? if he wants to go to the gym to look good, then why the eff NOT? thats what i do. you look great, you feel great, when you feel great you have confidence and it just steamrolls into all good things. so honestly, the reason to be going to the gym is pretty irrelevant.
The reason is quite important. To me, looks being the primary reason a guy goes to the gym is akin to women getting breast implants or plastic surgery to improve their self esteem, and we all know how well THAT goes. Those women have a 3 times higher rate of suicide, as well as death by drugs. This is because to have so desperate a need for others to be attracted to you physically that it causes you to do something that drastic is usually a sign of deeper underlying mental or psychological issues that can't be remedied by merely "improving" your physical appearance. When they don't find the fulfillment they were looking for through that improved physical appearance, it gets pretty ugly (no pun intended) for many of them. I'm not saying the OP has issues of that level, or is suicidal. I'm just saying one should always examine the true reasoning behind why s/he is taking a particular course of action instead of just going through the motions. You might find some interesting answers.
#2. i dont see anywhere in his first post saying that he was dependant on finding a woman to make him happy.
Come on, now. Does he really need to spell it out for you? The entire premise of the OP's thread was to rant about how he thought he had a possible g/f lined up, but it fell through before it even started. "I really don't need this kind of crap in my life right now. For the last few months I have been working out and **** to get in shape
so that I can get a girlfriend and to also give me something to do to
pull me out of my depression.
I don't need all this extra empty promises and crap trying to bring me down when I am trying to pick myself up." Sounds like he had his hopes up awful high.
however, there is only so much happiness you can give to yourself.
now on this point you can call me naive its ok. i think having the attitude that most people arent worth knowing is exactly whats wrong with the world. if people would just take the time to listen to others we would realize that none of us really are that different. we are all striving for the same things. and yet instead of working together we have this pointless hatred and wannabe superiority complex to fellow men, that i think stems from self loathing and hatred.
I disagree. For starters, I don't think most people have a problem with meeting, getting to know or even getting close to others. I'm in the minority with the "most people aren't worth knowing" philosophy (at least one that actually practices it). That is something I've deduced from life experience, and granted I'm not
that old, I'm significantly older than most on here, so I have a bit more to go on. I'm also extremely analytical. I don't just drift through life on autopilot and go through the motions. I take in the moment, and dissect it to learn from it, or better understand what just happened, and/or why. Basically, I've found that Americans toss the term "friends" and "love" around very liberally. Everyone's "a friend of mine". I'm much more selective with who I let get anywhere near me, primarily because I've found most people to be extremely lazy, careless, selfish, oblivious to their own choices and consequences of their actions, ignorant, and completely lacking in morals, standards, honor, pride, ethics and etiquette. That's pretty far from what I strive for. In fact, most of it is the direct opposite. Perhaps my standards are higher because I'm a 1st gen American, so I have a different cultural background as a point of reference to compare to, but this is what I've found through my interactions with people time and time again. This is why I prefer to focus on my own life, and not worry about "someone to make me happy". I could go into a whole other tangent about the validity of monogamous relationships, but I've digressed enough as it is. Point is I don't find goals and ambitions in life to be a distraction from "finding someone to make you happy". I find looking for someone to make you happy is a distraction from life, and figuring yourself out/what you want out of life, etc. At the very least, certainly the OP shouldn't be letting what sounds like your average/typical 2-bit c*nt get to him.
She says she had a bad memory wtf lol
So she's a drunk AND a pothead??
not trying to be a dick or nuthin, don't mean to offend anyone if i did.
That's EXACTLY what a dick would say!
......I KEED, I KEED!