The reason people run 1.9 rockers is because they dont want to install a cam...then they end up selling their rockers and buying a cam because they got waxed by a cammed car...and yes...it is safe. IIRC they just came out with 1.95:1 RR's.
a) you dont need an HD trans to take the power of an m90 setup, my car was proof.
b) porting the LIM is a giant waste of time. leave it alone.
c) get a 3" downpipe. 2.5" is NOT a good choice regardless of you having an N/A car or not.
d) get everything you listed except change what i have already said.
there you go.