I recommend a couple things for ya then John...
First off, at the bottom of my signature...click that link and read up, there is TONS of basic info there for you to get a grasp on the platform you'll be working with and what mods work to keep it a safe daily driver but still get some better MPG's/pep out of it.
If it were me, I'd do it like this...
Buy a PCM from www.3800performance.com...it's a DHP...best mail order PCM ever made for this platform.
I'd just leave the pulley stock, or get a 3.6" Modular Pulley System...but you'll need the actual pulley puller tool...you can't just rent a standard pulley puller from your local auto parts store because it could damage the snout shaft in the supercharger. Then I'd pick up a PLOG and a 3" catless downpipe from ZZPerformance as well while you're there...that'd take care of the exhaust system as the catback isn't restrictive...if you want to change the noise of the car, swap out the mufflers.
As for the shift kit, buy one from wither TripleEdgePerformance or IntenseRacing...the Intense one is the stronger, slap bang one...so if you're just wanting to firm up the shifts then I'd suggest the TransGo and when you install the PCM, they have upper line pressure and lowered shift tables in the tune you buy...so that'll pull everything together for you.