so i have now done another check, you know, drove around the block and then peered under the car with a flashlight. it seems there are TWO leaks: the engine one, which is small, and then a second one, which is the one that leaves puddles. the small engine leak is noticeable, but not a huge issue right now, so i poured a liquid into the oil filler that is supposed to rejuvenate gaskets and thus help stop leaks. it was recommended by a guy who knows mechanics, and at 7 bucks a bottle i figured i'll give it a try. i can always change gaskets later, right?
the second leak is on the center line of the car,, and just behind the front axle line. so could it be steering fluid, or transmission fluid? i suppose i could live without power steering, but a tranny would be expensive to fix, i guess.
so in the end i will have no choice but to take it to a shop for a proper diagnosis.