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Meet My New Baby Daughter.

WOW that time went quick since you announced it.

She is a real cutie.....best of blessings to her and mom and dad.
 


atj8 said:
Congrats Dan! Best of luck with parenthood! There goes the car fund! lol
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Never really had a car fund to begin with. Just spent whatever I wanted on the car. Lol. Definitely won't stop working on the car, the pace will just be substantially slower now.

spazzz said:
WOW that time went quick since you announced it.

She is a real cutie.....best of blessings to her and mom and dad.
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Time sure does fly, doesn't it?

Thanks for the blessings!
 
Congratulations to both you and your GF! It's only rough for the first few months until she starts sleeping through the night. Once she gets on a schedule she will be more predictable and you will know what she wants. She's beautiful and I wish you all the best. I'm 40 and have 3 girls with my youngest being 6. I was your age when I had my first daughter so I can understand the challenge of being a young parent. It may seem rough some days but it comes with the territory.
 
WickedGoat said:
Congratulations to both you and your GF! It's only rough for the first few months until she starts sleeping through the night. Once she gets on a schedule she will be more predictable and you will know what she wants. She's beautiful and I wish you all the best. I'm 40 and have 3 girls with my youngest being 6. I was your age when I had my first daughter so I can understand the challenge of being a young parent. It may seem rough some days but it comes with the territory.
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I appreciate it man.

Right now, I dread night time. The daughter is sleeps and rarely cries during the day, but at night she's up at least 3+ hours a night screaming and crying. Even after being fed a few times/diaper changed.

I'm already beyond excited for her to finally sleep through the night. Few more months!
 
Congrats on your baby!

kids are awesome i have a 4 year old and a 2 year old. I wouldnt change it for the world. its nice when you get to tuck your own kids in bed and they say why do you have to go to work tomorrow because they are bummed you cant spend the whole day with them.
i cannot wait to get back to ND and have almost 2 full months off!!

lifes forever changed now lol. the early stages are aggravating and painful esp with the first one but the toddler years it begins to get better.

once you reach no formula no diapers then things are much easier.
 
Thanks man!

Right now, things are tough, but everyone keeps saying, things can only get better. Which is obviously true. Just got to hang in there with these odd hours of sleep since she enjoys to cry her head off every night between 2 - 4:30am.
 


Being a father has been amazing. But things with lady, not so much.

We moved in together right after our girl was born. About after a week, one night she just got up and left, took my daughter with her, and never came back. Living at her Mom's house now. She also won't allow me to see my daughter either much. I fight just to spend 4 hours a week with her. I've hired a lawyer to get my visitation rights settled. The Ex-Girlfriend, has kind of gone psycho.

Here's some recent pictures of me and the my baby girl. She's growing up so fast, it's crazy. Already 10 weeks old, today.













 
Damn dude, I'm sorry to hear that; My best man at my wedding went through the same crap, needless to say he got in touch with a lawyer, he did a couple of parenting classes and served her ass up recently, he has equal share over his son, courts gave the Ex-GF a short leash, one slip up and she looses all custody for the **** she has pulled (she got caught lying several times, he was recording her and getting things in text, she would spin different stories). Keep at it man, sucks she pulled a stunt like that.
 
Yep thats what i was wondering as well how is the miss's and you doing. I know after mybwife and i had our 2nd child on 8/14/14 things got a bit rocky. Doesnt help when your sleep deprived and exhausted all the time. Any little thing can set one of you off. I basically had to swallow my pride and let her be right all the time and take the lashings for the first few months. Now things are much better now that her hormones are kinda back to normal. May want to consider some family counseling to help you guys figure thungs out. Do it for the kid man. Good luck.
 
damn thats just messed up. that dont look good for her tho. just up and leaving in the middle of the night and taking the kid is not normal with out saying a thing.
 


I dont know how things are in Michigan but in WI they really side with the mother.
At very least in WI you get one overnight a week plus every other weekend. It is a very painful thought.
Then they take 17% of net for 1 child.

Stay strong, happy you have a daughter, value your time with her and it will work out.
 
I have a 5 month old son now, my first kid, me and the wife have been together almost 10 years now and it was still very hard on us for the first few months, I did and still do what uno said "swallow my pride and let her be right all the time and take the lashings for the first few months." their hormones get of whack and really put a strain on the relationship.
If you two can consider trying again, it'd be worth it.
 
dRunK13 said:
Damn dude, I'm sorry to hear that; My best man at my wedding went through the same crap, needless to say he got in touch with a lawyer, he did a couple of parenting classes and served her ass up recently, he has equal share over his son, courts gave the Ex-GF a short leash, one slip up and she looses all custody for the **** she has pulled (she got caught lying several times, he was recording her and getting things in text, she would spin different stories). Keep at it man, sucks she pulled a stunt like that.
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It just doesn't make sense how someone could do that someone else? Trying to take the father out of the childs life is an awful thing, but I won't let that happen. Luckily, I only try to communicate with her via text, encase she says something wrong, I have it recorded just encase.

Uno99 said:
Yep thats what i was wondering as well how is the miss's and you doing. I know after mybwife and i had our 2nd child on 8/14/14 things got a bit rocky. Doesnt help when your sleep deprived and exhausted all the time. Any little thing can set one of you off. I basically had to swallow my pride and let her be right all the time and take the lashings for the first few months. Now things are much better now that her hormones are kinda back to normal. May want to consider some family counseling to help you guys figure thungs out. Do it for the kid man. Good luck.
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Females are definitely not easy to cope with. I've been swallowing my pride with her on a daily basis for over a year now. No matter what happens, I'm the one always apologizing and taking the blame for the situation just to end the argument. It gets old after awhile. We've gone to counseling when she was pregnant, but that obviously didn't work. Even though I still love the girl, after I was basically just a "sperm donor" to her, it would be smart for me to move on. She's a great mother, but that's it. She lives with her mom currently, doesn't have a job, doesn't do any type of cooking, doesn't want to ever get a job, $20,000 in debt from cosmetology school but doesn't want to get her license, and her step-dad just hands her money. Honestly, if ended up marrying the girl, I would be the one doing everything, as she isn't going to support the family in anyway.

spazzz said:
I dont know how things are in Michigan but in WI they really side with the mother.
At very least in WI you get one overnight a week plus every other weekend. It is a very painful thought.
Then they take 17% of net for 1 child.

Stay strong, happy you have a daughter, value your time with her and it will work out.
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This ^ Here in Michigan, the court will always favor the mother in every way. It's a difficult situation here when being a father. At most, I'm allowed every Wednesday, and every other weekend. But that won't start until shes two years old. In the mean time, I see my daughter 6 hours a week at most, if I'm lucky.

But every second I'm with my little girl, is the world to me. Whether she's happy, crying, or sleeping, I still love being spending my short time with her.

Grimsin said:
I have a 5 month old son now, my first kid, me and the wife have been together almost 10 years now and it was still very hard on us for the first few months, I did and still do what uno said "swallow my pride and let her be right all the time and take the lashings for the first few months." their hormones get of whack and really put a strain on the relationship.
If you two can consider trying again, it'd be worth it.
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I was hoping, if I continued to swallow my pride, like you did, she would eventually come back around. I mean there's still time, but I don't see that happening, nor am I sure if I want that to happen anymore. It would be ideal if the mother and father of the child were together AND happy. But we can't just have an awful relationship and stay together just because we have a daughter shared between us.
 
Wow man sounds like youve tried pretty hard on your end. If that is the case then you may need to just move on and be the best father you can while she makes it tough on you. As long as your truely doing the best you can with the circumstances your up againsts thats all you can do and you should be able to sleep at night just fine.
 
She comes from a mother with a light tree. That should have told you that she was nuts. :th_winking:

Keep making the best of things.
 


Uno99 said:
Wow man sounds like youve tried pretty hard on your end. If that is the case then you may need to just move on and be the best father you can while she makes it tough on you. As long as your truely doing the best you can with the circumstances your up againsts thats all you can do and you should be able to sleep at night just fine.
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Amen to that. I definitely need to move on and find someone will be able to help support a family in the future. As of right now, all I need to worry about it taking care of my little girl and enjoy the moments I have with her.
 
As a side note, we settled our visitation hours legally, finally. Not exactly what I wanted, but it was the best I could get.

- Now until 6 months old: Every Tuesday/Thursday for 2 hours, every other Saturday for 2 hours.

- 6 months too 1 year: Every Tuesday/Thursday for 2 hours, every other Saturday for 4 hours.

- 1 year to 18 months: Every Tuesday/Thursday for 2 hours, every other Saturday for 6 hours.

- 18 months to 2 years: Every Tuesday/Thursday for 2 hours, every other Saturday for 8 hours.

- 2+ years: Every Wednesday for 3 hours, every other weekend. (Friday 6pm - Sunday 6pm).

*Also, every time the baby mama works on Tuesday/Thursday's, I get to keep my daughter until her bedtime.
 
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i guess she dont like to go out on the weekends..... cause giving you over night visitation would let her have a free day.
 
Scottydoggs said:
i guess she dont like to go out on the weekends..... cause giving you over night visitation would let her have a free day.
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What I mentioned is what will be court ordered, so nothing less than that. I have a feeling when Presley gets older, my Ex will "allow" me to see my daughter more often, especially if she wants to go out one night like you stated.
 
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