So ive been dating my GF for 6 years....i finally get up the nerve to ask her to marry me a few monthes ago......today she calls my phone screaming that she pregnant!!!! HOLY F**K!!! Totally unexpected!!!!!!!! But i have had all day to think about it and now i cant wait!! Im a first time dad ( that sound weird) So any advise would be fantastic :th_thumbsup-double:
First...congrats!
During her pregnancy - keep your head down and just do as you're asked. Really. For the next ~ 9 months - you and your feelings don't matter. She is going to be experiencing things that you cannot - and really should not - imagine. Your payoff right now is watching in complete amazement as she changes from girlfriend - to mom. It's truly an amazing thing to witness - you will learn to love her on a completely different level - even if you aren't aware of it. NOTHING is more beautiful than a pregnant woman - especially if it's the woman you love. Don't forget to tell her.
Don't be surprised to find yourself going to the store at 2 AM for rocky road ice cream, pickles, a gallon of apple juice and a head of lettuce. And none of it is for you. She'll ask - you
do. Mmmmk?
She will most likely sign you 2 up for birthing classes. You're going. These classes are really meant to prepare her - and scare the sh!t out of you. They will succeed. You have a responsibility to buy the book - "The Expectant Father" -
I'll even help you out. Read this book - amaze her with your brilliance, but most of all - it gives you some insight into what she's feeling and why, and will really help you share this with her instead of just being a spectator. She's going to get help and advice from every woman who's ever had a baby - but she really only cares about the advice and support of 2 people. Her mom - and you - even is she doesn't say it. On that note - you will find yourself noticing that you become much more in tune with her non-verbal queues - a look on her face, the way she stands or sits. For your own good - and hers - pay attention.
Here's another book to help you out this book also has some good massage ideas for you to use - but don't be fooled by the title
there will be days that you will not be able to do so - and on those days -
you try anyway. Just know if you ask things like "Do you need anything?" or "Can I do anything for you?" that it may wind up bugging the living hell out of her. Remember - she's pregnant - not an invalid. See above about learning her non-verbal queues.
Witness the birth - the birth of my 2 kids were the most incredible, humbling, amazing days of my life - every father should not just witness but be active in the delivery. I'm not saying scrub up and grab a catcher's mitt or some salad tongs - but be the go-to guy for ice chips, a cold rag, a massage - whatever. I was tasked with watching the monitor when my daughter was born and let her know when contractions were coming or abating so that she knew when to push and when not to. Pretty cool. And cut the cord - during the birth of my first kid, my daughter; when I cut the cord...I
just cut the cord. It wasn't until my wife became pregnant with our son - and we were closing in on the due date - that it hit me. It wasn't
just cutting the cord it was a realization that up until that very moment - this amazing woman had done
absolutely everything for this child - and now
your responsibility
really begins. Don't confuse that with a feeling or attitude of "Okay honey, I'll take it from here". She's still the expert.
Sorry for soapboxing - I didn't even realize until now how much I had rambled. Congratulations - I don't know you or your wife-to-be, but I hope all goes well for you 2 and at the end of the day (approximately 9 months from now) you'll have 10 fingers, 10 toes and a gutteral scream that will absolutely make you cry like a baby with joy. Because when that happens - you're a father...and then it's time to start working on becoming a "Daddy".
You'll be humbled in some way - every day after that. That's the good stuff.
-Swash
and he gained like 32lbs! LMAO..everytime I would eat he would too!!! So ya! And if she has ANY questions just ask!!
