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How to talk to this cute girl in my college class?

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SF9777 said:
So is it a good idea to ask what she may do over the break, and then if shes not busy, n does NOT have a BF already. Then ask her if she like to hang out, go for a walk or watch a movie? There are lots off cool movies coming out during the break so that idea really sticks out to me.

edit: Oh and tell her if she want to do stuff and get to know each other more?
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no movies, 10th date, ok, but overall no movies.

and then if shes not busy, n does NOT have a BF already
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Who cares if she has a boyfriend? Girls RARELY ever dump a guy then hang out waiting around for another guy... they monkey around from branch to branch but they wont let go of the old one until they like their grip on the new one. Also, if she is busy but makes time for you.. Its really good indications of her intentions (aka you are not wasting your time, and because you are a noob... money).
 
Man. This is somewhat painful to read. WAY over thinking things. Like everyone else said. Be yourself. Talk to her like you would anyone else. You don't have to make it a point to have a huge conversation with her. Nor do you need to ask her to do anything. There are a million ways to start a conversation. Just say hey. When she responds It will probly take a weight off your shoulders. A simple "hi" everyday or so would have went a long way. If for some reason she responds with a *****y remark or makes you feel like **** (worse case scenario) just say **** you I was being polite.

If i were single i would wish I could go back to a school situation. So many possibilities. Don't focus on one person because there is a very small chance something big is gonna come from it anyway. If she doesn't bite, move on to the next one.

You could always just give her a compliment too. Girls spend way too much time getting ready in the morning. Tell her she looks nice or something like that. She would be happy as hell someone noticed.

I know what your going through. I use to be the same way. I've been with my woman for 7 years now and she was dating someone when I met her. Just listen to everyone else when they tell you your over thinking it. It would be better to try and fail than to not try at all. You'll always think "what if"

Also, you said you didn't feel anything for her today (or whatever day it was) that doesn't matter. You don't need to like someone to talk to them. It's not like your asking her to come play with your man parts (yet).


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SF9777 said:
Ya I noticed. This is the same reason why I can't do it cause I think about it too much. Now I am not going to think about it and just see how it goes next time. And then I will just go for it without thinking about it just going to go for it. I keep letting the fear of being nervous of whatshe will say get to me. I just don't know why I can't do it. Something stops me from doing it and now I'm just wanting to find out what it is and stop it and just make my sled the much more free and be able to ask with our hesitation. It's so so so so hard to ask her n u don't know why
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1. Please shut up C-3PO and hand the keyboard to Han.
2. Fear leads to loneliness, loneliness leads to sadness, and sadness leads to suffering.
3. Just focus on setting up the study time. Having a real conversation with her will change things greatly and proceeding from there will be a lot easier.
4. Less Soresu and more Shien. Maybe move to vaapad a few dates later.
 


Ask her to get a drink at a bar. Start loading on the drinks and see what's good. That's like panty snatching tactics 101. Hey, wanna grab a drink sometime?" "No." (You know that you would've wasted your time anyways.) Or "Sure!" (Bam...you're in the money). Get to the bar, start drinking and let alcohol do the rest, shieeeeeeeeeeet. Life's too short to over think this crap.
 


Lmao at the last posts funny yes an I needed a laugh. U guys are right I am over thinking this. Also the other guy is right too I am very shy, I just try to fight it and it comes to bite me back. A guy told me I must be stressed out cause I have really black bags under my eyes. So this weekend we going up north which should be good way to release some stress. What I'm going to do over this weekend is just get some good ol R&R and just increase my confidence in myself.

Also u guys helped me a whole lot and u guys that said that I must try and see what happens. And it's right I have to fail sometimes to succeed. I want to not think about this over the weekend cause I when I think about it too much things don't go my way. So ya I'm just sayin this now ill try it tues and just talk to her. I hope things can go my way and I can get a chance to talk to her before class or after. And yes I would and will compliment her on something nice that she wears if she does. Not only that I'm just going to go for it next week and try to talk to her n hopefully get hr number. If we can't hang out over the spring. At least talking to her would be great wont it?

So ya u guys help me a lot and I know u guy could do better than I can but again I'm so shy. I'm a 5ft 11 guy 220lb and I seem to look at myself as not appealing. But people say u don't look apealing to yourself does not mean others think the same. Which is true and I'm sure I look pretty decent. I just lack exercise and have some belly fat but I'm getting into an exercising mood so if I can be more fit i can be more confident in myself. And come next week I'm just going for it, hell I'm not going to back down. One of my favorite songs I called I Will Not Bow and it is great thing to listen too before attempting this next week.

U guys are right I got to let go of C 3PO and get my inner Han. But more actually my inner Jedi, I'll do it next time, n if I fail I'll go down. By at least I go down trying and I'm sure to rise up from it again like I have before and keep on going, stronger and stronger. Thanks guys for the advice I appreciate it a lot.
 
SF9777 said:
...but again I'm so shy. I'm a 5ft 11 guy 220lb and I seem to look at myself as not appealing. But people say u don't look apealing to yourself does not mean others think the same. Which is true and I'm sure I look pretty decent. I just lack exercise and have some belly fat but I'm getting into an exercising mood so if I can be more fit i can be more confident in myself.
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Jabba the Hut got *****es.... and hes a fat worm. You can do better.

Shy is a state of mind, just look at it like this, if it doesn't work out, you can always do better. She's not the end-all be-all of the women of the planet. Just relax and chit-chat, you may find out you don't like her, there is always that possibility. Just get to know here and see how things go.
 
Your right about Jabba, ya I could but its just hard to talk to her. It's like when I try to words don't come out. Plus it makes it harder cause she does not look at me at all so I can try to say hi. Would that mean she may be shy too? I doubt she shy but it would be nice if she looked I can at least say hi.

I talked to her once before the first time I wrote this thread, but now I can't seem to talk to her and I hate this. I really want to get rid of being shy.
 


I know that feeling all to well bro. I cant really say much to help except say something to get noticed. Just casually be like hey hows your day or something similar and then ask her what classes she is taking or what she is going to school for and once you get talking then you will be able to keep going. Starting the convo is a b!tch but once you get the ball rolling it gets easier.
 
Paralysis by analysis.
I hear a little port and polish from the local machine shop helps drain off some of that boost.

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I can't even read the books the OP types.

Like you I was often the shy guy. Tell you something, nothing is going to get you over a fear beyond facing it. Think...I can beat off with lefty again or ask her to study. It's very simple. Once you succeed on the first meeting, realize that she's thinking the same things you are. Humans, like every other animal on the planet were embedded with a desire/need to procreate. This means..yes...she likely wants to just as badly as you. By the third date, you better have moved in for a kiss/feel or you are out the door for someone that will.
 
stealthee said:
Some of you guys make this out to be so easy. You have to realize that some people are just naturally very shy. I have always been shy and akward around any new people, especially women, so I know how the kid feels. If he is not comfortable, he is not comfortable. There is nothing wrong with that.
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Hey man. That's great but sooner or later he'll get tired of being a ***** and sack up.



Just saying. There's also online dating
 
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