I just read this thread and I LOVE how the OP makes it sounds like the praise of the 3800 is false because he has had problems with his.
Seriously, this thread is a waste. There is admitting to improper maintanance on the car, strike 1. Miss your fluid changes, faulty maintanance can ruin hope of the car being a great car. And some people don't take into account, buying a car you know the last owner did not maintain, you stand good odds of paying for there sins.
Second, the OP admits to beating the crap out of the car and driving it hard. Any car, even a Corvette, has it's limits. If you push it too hard and beat the crap out of it, yeah, it's not going to live up to it's potential. Strike two....
Personally, I'm not sure what would chaulk up to a 3rd strike, but I'm sure it's there.
Now, I drive a '94 Grand Am with a 3100 v6 since '03 as a daily driver. I bought it at 86K and it now has 202K on it. I admit, I drive the car hard on the freeway every day to and from work, and the worst problem it gave me was a blown head gasket at 180K. It has not been without wrench work, but when you look at the miles I've put on it, the car has done outstanding for me. The drive train still runs like new, it's on the original transmission. I'm convinced the body is going to rust away before the drive train craps out.