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Vancouver area teen commits suicide after telling story of being cyberbullied

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After documenting a heart-breaking story about cyber-bullying on a video posted to YouTube last month, 15-year-old Amanda Todd was found dead Wednesday night in Coquitlam.

Her tragic death - an expected suicide - has prompted many to speak out about the dangers of bullying, especially in the age of social media.

Premier Christy Clark posted a short video on YouTube today sending her sympathies to Amanda's family.

"I just heard about Amanda. I want to say to everyone who loved her, to all her family and friends, how sorry I am about her loss," Clark says on the video.

"No one deserves to be bullied. No one earns it. No one asks for it. It isn't a rite of passage. Bullying has to stop."

Amanda was a Grade 10 student at an alternative high school in Coquitlam called CABE (Coquitlam Basic Alternative Education), which has approximately 200 students in Grades 10 to 12.

Principal Paul McNaughton said the students and staff at the school are grieving today. He said Amanda, who joined the school halfway through the last school year and came back to start Grade 10 in September, had friends at CABE.

"It is a very sad case," he said. "I can tell you we feel we tried everything we could to help her when she came to us.

"She was quite connected here. The staff and the students here are very much impacted. She had some very strong ties in the school and to staff in the school.

"The whole thing has been pretty hard."

In the YouTube video, Amanda does not speak but instead holds up to the camera white pieces of paper on which her story is told, one phrase at a time. She documented a painful story of being harassed online and being shunned at school, leaving her feeling alone in the world.

In a message accompanying the video post, she added: "I'm struggling to stay in this world, because everything just touches me so deeply. I'm not doing this for attention. I'm doing this to be an inspiration and to show that I can be strong. I did things to myself to make pain go away, because I'd rather hurt myself then someone else. Haters are haters but please don't hate, although im sure I'll get them. I hope I can show you guys that everyone has a story, and everyones future will be bright one day, you just gotta pull through. I'm still here aren't I ?"

YouTube today pulled the video, posting a short explanation that is was removed because it violates YouTube's terms of service.

The school district sent grief counsellors to CABE -- which helps students who are having difficulty in other schools for a variety of reasons -- to speak with students and staff.

District spokeswoman Cheryl Quinton said Coquitlam has many anti-bullying programs in its schools, and noted the issue is becoming even more challenging because of social media.

"Bullying . . . is an issue of prime concern for the school district," she said.

Amanda had previously gone to school in Maple Ridge but had changed schools and was living in Coquitlam.

In the YouTube video, Todd told of living with her father, who she said rescued her when she was lying in a ditch after being beaten by a number of students. She said then moved to another school -- it was CABE she was referring to -- and was with her mom.

McNaughton said the family doesn't want to talk to the media.

"We're respecting their wishes," he said.

Amanda joined YouTube on September 6 and posted her video Sept. 7.

On Sept. 7, Amanda also uploaded a presentation Cybre Bullying on Prezi in which she explains what cyberbullying is and gives advice on dealing with it.

In what could turn out to be her own very sad legacy, Amanda urged people to stand up to bullies and to help their victims:

"If you see that someone is being bullied, don't be afraid to tell the bully to stop doing what they are doing. Make sure to tell them that it's wrong and that they shouldn't bully other kids."

To parents, Amanda urged them "to always give your child emotional support" and help them if they are being bullied.

The Amanda Michelle Todd memorial Facebook page, posted early this morning, already has more than 4,000 people "liking" it.

Many people were also posting comments on the site.

"RIP. my thoughts and prayers go to her family, I cannot even begin to imagine what they are going through. High school is supposed to be the best time of your life, not one where you fear for yourself every day. No one should have to feel the way she did. What is wrong with people, why do they feel the need to bully someone to their death? She was a beautiful young girl who went way too soon," wrote Breanna Lockhart Collins.

In a post on its Facebook page, G Force Gym, Home of the Vancouver All Stars cheerleaders, wrote:

"Today we feel the loss of our former VAS family member Amanda . . . I ask that we all watch her video and share her story so that her loss is not in vain. Allow this to be her legacy . . . Allow us all to look around & find the next Amanda before another precious spunky teenager is lost."

Amanda's video echoed another similar online tale entitled My Story: Suicide and Bullying, which was uploaded by Mollydoyle18 on YouTube. It was clear from the comments that Amanda wanted to contact Molly in a private message and apparently had reached her.

Commenting on Amanda's video, Molly wrote today:

"Rest in peace and fly high to Amanda Todd. I was just messaging her about almost a week ago, and I just found out that she has taken her life. She was asking me about how to be an inspiration to others and to get her video more views, and now I have found out that she has passed away . . . This is a terrible tragedy. I wish she could have had her happy ending."

Read more: Vancouver area teen commits suicide after telling story of being cyberbullied (with video)
 


wtf? "so i did, huge mistake. he hooked up with me."
she is in no way the victim in that situation.... if he has a girlfriend and wants to cheat on her with you how would that ever sound like its okay and would in any way lead to anything good? its still sad though.
 
did you watch the whole video dude? the guy came to her school afterwards with 15 other ppl and beat her
 
Yeah because she cheated on someone and still thought he liked her even when she was with them... like wtf?
And why doesnt she just not use facebook/twitter? derp. You can hide your profile and **** from people unless youre the one adding them. I know people that get beat up all the time. Two girls at my school got beat up the other day. This other girl has gotten jumped one or two times within this school year as well... but she could for real just deactivate her facebook and she wouldn't be able to get tagged and ****. And if she did that and moved, then it wouldnt matter. She wouldnt have any record in her new town and no one would see her past.
 
This is one of those things where sure it sucks that this has to happen, but if only these kids/people would open their eyes more and see that there is always a way get help and find something/someone to get them through this. Taking our own life didnt solve anything.
 


i agree with most of what you said. she definitely wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed. The part that concerns me, is the lack of support from the parents. I mean, the dad found his daughter beaten up, lying in a ditch, he takes her home and she drinks a bottle of bleach. Warning sign much? but yeah i could go on about how the youth these days get depressed over the most petty things. and, i do blame the parenting and social media
 
This is one of those things where sure it sucks that this has to happen, but if only these kids/people would open their eyes more and see that there is always a way get help and find something/someone to get them through this. Taking our own life didnt solve anything.

exactly
 
Bullying has always been present, and always will be. In the past it was more physical, now it's more of a mind game through technology IMO.

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i agree with most of what you said. she definitely wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed. The part that concerns me, is the lack of support from the parents. I mean, the dad found his daughter beaten up, lying in a ditch, he takes her home and she drinks a bottle of bleach. Warning sign much? but yeah i could go on about how the youth these days get depressed over the most petty things. and, i do blame the parenting and social media
yeah most of this. like really? she gets bullied on facebook and beat up and cuts herself and she isnt even able to drive yet? maybe she shouldnt be using a computer?
 


I bullied through all my school years. Dont like it? Jack the guy in the face thats almost 100% guaranteed to stop. 6th grade I was new to the school, knew nobody, was about 4' 10" maybe 50lbs maybe halfway through the year I was running through the hallway and this guy tripped me. I got up and knocked him across the face. Never got ****ed with after that.

It happens, stand up the world isnt here to hold your hand. You bet my kids will be able to handle their own and not put up with other peoples ****. Atleast they killed themselves now vs entering the real world, boy would that make them flip their lid!
 
Yeah for real. Not bragging or getting into details but I've lived a pretty ****ed up life and I dont just let it all get me down. It gets to me sometimes, but anything you go through just makes you stronger. If she didnt want people to know all of her past she shouldve not used an open facebook.
 
how does a cute girl like that not conquer the world?

i mean, i was a super dork and had major issues with being shy and i managed to become a popular kid in high school. all the crap i went through made me push harder.

this is sad and all, but i can't say i'm really caught off guard with what happened based on her actions. i'm more surprised that she gave up than anything.
 
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