you're saying the same thing. If you're sitting in one side of the car and the vehicle is weighed down the suspension has compressed more on your side thus causing a unequal bias between left and right side on the sway bar. And ultimately the endlink on the opposite side side needs to compensation to handle the change.
Sway bar preload, and maintaining mechanical advantage on the sway bar are two separate issues.
What I'm saying is, measure the length of sway bar you need to maintain the bar perpendicular to the end link while the car is on the ground. The point is, if you look at the formula for torque, forces applied at 90* to the object you are trying to rotate are the most efficient. If you apply a force at an angle greater or less than 90*, less of the applied force will translate into torque. Less torque, less resistance to wheel movement. Thus making your sway bar less effective.
Then when the car is on level ground, loaded with it's regular load, you have someone adjust the end link until there is the least amount of tension on it. That is zero preload. You do that after having the car corner balanced though.
Sway bar preload is the bias you are describing due to different loads on each side of the car. Ultimately, you should have that removed via corner balancing so it should be a non-issue granted the car isn't tweaked, your end links are the exact same length etc. So it's a little bit of extra time spent by your corner balancing guy, but you're already paying for it anyways.
All of this stuff is part of proper setup with high spring rate cars with adjustable suspension. But if you're not having the car corner balanced, forget about all of this.
Pretty much comes down to do you want good, or good enough.