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What would you do?

Spartan GL

Specialist Walter US Army
So my brother came home last night very intoxicated and high on something. His girlfriend of 2 years drove him and his truck home last night. I was trying to fall asleep when they came in, she was crying he was yelling and he hit her twice in their room. I got dressed grabbed my O.C. Spray (Pepper Spray/Mace) I am a D & G Security Officer. And i tried to calm him down. She Hide his truck keys from him because he was trying to leave and drive drunk (Way pass the legal limit) He kept yelling for a good 15minutes then he hit her in the face right in front of me in the living room. I hit him with the spray in the face. Then he rushed at me (he was blinded FYI) and starting wailing on me. Then he retreated to go and try to wash his eyes out. (didn't work, i have the Law Enforcement Grade ****)
Then i went outside and he kept coming at me a few times but he couldn't catch me. then he starting screaming he couldn't see verbally threating me a few dozen times yelling that he had something for me. Now he is kinda big into drugs and all that and he is already a convicted felon with multiple drug charges and a think a Violence charge or two. He could of went for a knife or had a Firearm stashed somewhere in the house. I called 911 to get a Paramedic to tend to his eyes and the police showed up as well. I did not tell them that he hit his GF but i said he was being extremely violent and that he raised his hand back to strike her. (Again i didn't tell him that he hit her and nobody told them that he had infact beat her.

The Police advised me to leave the house for the night mind you this was like 3am. I grabbed a few things and did just that. Got a Hotel Room etc and thats where i am at currently.

Now he has called me multiple times saying he is going to kill me or **** me up and he does not sound right in the head. not the slightest bit. He does not sound like his normal self.

My mom got into a argument with his girlfriend and told her that she couldn't stay at our house anymore so they grabbed a few things and left as well.

Now i plan to return to my house tomorrow around 5ish and go about my normal routine. I don't really want him to get arrested again because he would be looking at a very lengthy prison sentence since he already has a long record but at this point he seems to be beyond reason.

He also trashed my room after the police and i left. Punched a hole through his own door and wrecked my mothers house and verbally abused and threatened her and disowned her.

Here are a few pictures.
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My arm, i also have a few brusies on my arms and face from when he was blinding trying to kill me.


To Sum it up i stopping him from continuing or doing the following.
Beating on a Women.
Going to Jail for a Domestic Battery Charge
Going to Jail for a DUI
Going to Jail for Criminal Threatening with a deadly weapon
Going to Jail for Battery on a Law Enforcement Officer (Security Officers are considered LEO's)


I Maced him to Cease the Threat and get him under control. He is now activiely trying to find and hunt me down. But i have two cans of Law Enforcement Grade Mace, my glock 19, and a 38 Special if he tries to come at me with a deadly weapon.


I was considering a Restraining Order but my mom is flipping **** over that saying she is going to sell the house and ill need to find a new place to live.

What would you guys recommend.
 
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is this your older brother? and mom's always stick up for there bad kid when the other one isnt doing anything wrong but trying to help. i would stay clear of your brother maybe he will calm down seems like hes a bit to crazy and doesn't think before he takes action. your in the right and he is in the wrong.
 
Have him locked up. Its better than shooting him. I know he's family, but he's grown and has made his choices. It's way better than looking over your shoulder. You know this as a serviceman.
 
Wow Joey! Honestly I'm glad you stopped him from driving drunk. But I would have told the cops he beat his GF. That **** isn't' right! Let him get introuble i understand your his bro but if he's that deep into stuff he needs to get in trouble. Maybe it will help him realize he's in the wrong.
 


Should have tased him.

....Why the f*ck didn't you have your room under lock and key?


My room is under lock and key. He broke in and i wasn't there to stop him. I am going to purchase a taser pistol tommorrow my new Security Agency doesn't have em. my old one issued me one but i had to return it.
 
Few more Details

Older Brother

He is 29, 300lbs of Muscle (Prison lifestyle)
I am 22, 200lbs of lean soldier (Military/Security Lifestyle) **** you its a lean 200lbs!
 
wheres his GF did she get away from all this for a while hopefully shes smart enough to leave she shouldn't be with someone like that who hits her
 


wheres his GF did she get away from all this for a while hopefully shes smart enough to leave she shouldn't be with someone like that who hits her

No shes being stupid and staying with him and claiming he didn't do anything wrong taking his side.
 
well some people will never learn... i bet shes mad at you now right?

Never learn?

Shes pretty far into the cycle of abuse.

She's not going to magically "awaken" and "decide" to condemn the guy.

Honestly in the short run: letting him get that DUI would have been easier, but it wouldn't have been the right thing to do.

Now you get to live with the consequences.
 
Never learn?

Shes pretty far into the cycle of abuse.

She's not going to magically "awaken" and "decide" to condemn the guy.

I just want this to be over. I don't want to have to look over my shoulder for my own brother. or worry about more of my property or vehicles being damaged.

Mom is against anything involving the police or the courts.
 
It won't be over until something stops him. Whether it'll be a conviction or AA or something of that sort, who knows.

Don't want to cast too much judgement on your mother, however I will question how she can tolerate this in her home as well as how her reaction is to sell the house and kick you out.
 


I agree with others, he needs serious intervention, and I'm skeptical as to rather he's sane enough for family intervention alone. He needs professional help. And in reality, it might take a big wake up call from the authorities to teach him. If it means courts or police or whatever, it's safer for him and safe for you guys, no one gets hurt, and he learns a lesson. It may not sound good but what else are you going to do??

And personally if I were you, I'd remove myself from that house, and stay out of the situation, it's too much conflict. Until a decision can be made as to how to handle him, you are in the midle of a bad thing, Mom wants one thing, gf wants another, no one will be happy until something settles.
 
I'm not going to ask, but you say he has a drug problem. And by the way he was acting I'm sure it's nothing "fun". Sometimes for those people the only thing that will get it in their brain is jail/prison. It may take a few times of being in but sooner or later he will realize. And being out on the street is not a good way to fight a drug addiction.
 
i know but in a hand to hand combat he outweights me by about 2 classes and has reach! lol not to mention he wants to use a weapon..
 
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