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My wife is a bad person

Deezul_AwT

Deezul_AwT

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And that's the most polite way I can say what she's done. Get ready for a rant...

We have been separated for 4 years. I finally realized that it wasn't going to work. So I filed for the divorce in October. Last week, I learn from my lawyer, not from my wife, that my 6 year old daughter is not mine. Included in her response was a DNA test with the biological father. It's the guy she once told me was like a brother to her and she could never pursue anything romantic with him. She's been living him with for the past four years as we've been separated, because I trusted her when she said she was living with him because he was in her home state. She said when she moved back to Georgia from Virginia it was because Virginia was making her unhealthy.

I feel like an idiot that I never realized that so much of what she has done since the birth of our daughter has been so she could carry on her relationship. I said I'd get a vasectomy after we were done having children, she also wanted to have her tubes tided. She's made it difficult for me to spend time with my daughter, but it was never a problem with other son. Our oldest son lives with me. With my sons with me this weekend, I went to get a DNA test because I just can't trust her. When she got pregnant, I'm pretty sure that wasn't the first time, and I have since found out that they have had a sexual relationship for quite some time.

It's going to be a real ****ty holiday season. But fortunately for me, even thought Georgia is an equitable state for divorces, if you can prove infidelity, it does't have to be. She was nice enough to give me that proof. So I'm not going to give her a dime of my retirement accounts, and I'm going to get the car and motorcycle back from her that's she's been using since after the cheating started. The biological father is going to file for legitimation, which I'm not going to fight. Because when their relationship goes south, and I know it will, I won't be on the hook for child support. But my sons will be living with me, so she will be paying ME support.

Anyone in the market for a white 2008 Chevy Impala SS? I should be getting it back in a few months!
 


Damn man. Sorry to hear that. Not a good situation to be in. Hope it all goes in your favor. Keep your head up!
 
Good Luck working through that pile of muck.
Keep your cool and don't talk about her around the kids.
 


pretty sure you can sue for what ever you've given her in support too. id strip her of what ever i could. thats nasty game she played.


what a damn mess.......B1tches man.
 
sounds like your going down the right path to protect yourself and the other children for the future. best of luck to you and what seems hard now remember will benifit you and the childrens future.

with out a family and financial ruin the worse times are yet to come for her!
 
I am doing my best to be the better person in this and not screaming or yelling. It's ironic when she first filed 4 years ago, her family asked her, "What did you do?" because they figured she did something to me to cause her to file. I defended her because I thought that was a pretty ****ty thing for them to do to their own family. Now I realize they knew she did something. I had to take one of my sons back to stay with her for Thanksgiving. Fortunately he'll only be there for another month. Then my sons are with me and she's paying me child support. When I said I'd return my son at a specific time, she said no, we had agreed to another time. I told her to check her email to see what it was the time I originally said. She sends a text say, "I apologize I did say that time." I didn't think about it until later, and it would have been a dick move, but I could have responded with, "Oh, so you DO know how to apologize when you say thing you were wrong about..."
And two days after getting this news, my older son, when he said he might stop calling his mother "Mom" and call her by her first name because of her behavior to him in particular, and I think a bit to how he sees she treated me, I said that he could keep calling me Dad. He said, matter-of-factly, "You'll always be Dad."
 
Thats sad to hear what your son was saying, but i guess that depends on how he was treated. I was in a similar situation kinda. My dad was going crazy (literally) making bougus claims on things my mom did making her seem like the most horrible person in the world. He made sure to tell me and my sister everyday, it destroyed us emotionally but we knew he was full of it. Needless to say i stopped calling him dad and started calling him "asshole" and stopped all communication.

We are just now starting to talk again a year and a half later.

How old are your sons?
 


12 and 14. I will not tell my sons anything that isn't true. One of the things I've taught them is the easiest way to remember what you have told someone is to tell the truth. Because then you don't have to remember what lies you've told. So when I tell them what she did or has done, I'm not lying. Heck, they tell me things she has done that I should have done something about but I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I'm too nice, and she took advantage of it.

I also feel sorry for my daughter who won't be my daughter much longer. She's 6, and she's smarter than I think my wife and Dickhead biological father think. She is going to be so messed up in the head later in life, wondering why one of her father's "abandoned" her. I have feeling in 8 or 9 years, she's going to get in contact with her brothers to get in contact with ME, to come rescue her from her living situation. Dickhead father has an older son that was living with me until the son turned 18. Then he was gone and went to live with his mother. That was almost 2 years ago, and he hasn't tried to contact his father again. Very telling situation if it happened to the older son what's going to happen to my daughter. But I'm not going to fight legitimization, so when my wife and Dickhead's relationship goes south, I'm not on the hook for child support. But my wife will still have to pay me, and then go after Dickhead, if she somehow manages to retain custody. I've also been told by my son that they aren't going to get married. The one thing I do get out of this is I know the truth now, and not when my daughter is 18 years old and I've been paying child support for a child that wasn't biologically mine.
I'm going to be speaking to a civil lawyer to see if any of the money I've given to my wife the past four years we've been separated for the care of my daughter can be recovered. If nothing else, I can use the threat of a lawsuit to get what I want out of the divorce. Which is everything. ;)
I hope to Willy Wonka my wife - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5QGkOGZubQ
 
Basically anything she got from me after she was pregnant, she's going to have a hard time proving it was marital property or given by me freely. She claims the car and motorcycle she uses were "gifts" from me. Fortunately, those gifts are still titled in my name, so that gift part is going to be harder to prove. I did luck out when I filed because I was probably going to sign at least the motorcycle over to her next year on her birthday. Glad I didn't.
 
Aa long as she don't have physical proof of you saying it was a gift its gonna be harder for her to keep them. On the flip side if shes has been mainly the driver of the car its a toss up maybe.

My dad tried crap like that on me, my car was in his name because i wasn't 18 yet. So he tried to take the car back to sell it which would violate a court order. Smart him he had stated to my mom in a text it was a gift for me so the judge kinda laughed at him and i got my car.
 


buddy had his wife for 7 years, 10 total. cheated on him after all her student and credit card debt was paid off....he found out from finding her facebook logged in with quite the private message.

thankfully they never had kids

they split quite amicably.....he was gonna send her parents the messages he had screen caps of if she made the divorce difficult.

im going to be that old bachelor with all the toys....
 
I have a few toys already in mind when it's done. Besides the money I've been given her monthly, plus insurance I've been paying, I'm going to have quite a bit more in my pocket in the new year. I never said it was a gift, they were vehicles she could use because she needed transportation when the children were with her. If they truly were gifts, they would be titled in her name, and she should have pushed for it. It will be quite a treat to get them back from her, because Dickhead Boyfriend only has a pickup truck and a ****ty motorcycle. I'm more than happy to sell her both vehicles for Blue Book value, but she probably could only come up with the cash for the motorcycle.
 
Sh!tty deal, but don't let them get wind of this plan without getting some sort of idea of the condition of the bike and car first, in case they decide to trash them.
 
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